A: If you are female with a male partner you don’t really have many worries. If you climax too quickly you are synced with his natural staying power. If you are a guy, your partner (male or female) already has low expectations, so you aren’t really disappointing anyone anyway. So, this response is for guys who lose control before the two minute average and lesbians who signed on expecting something more.
Some “experts” have suggested getting your partner off first so your trigger-happy genitals aren’t an issue. But what if your partner is a selfish bastard who rolls over the second they’re done? The way to keep your partner’s attention is to last longer, and you last longer by distracting yourself. Now, you don’t want to become so distracted that you lose track of where you are, but you do want to slow your mind’s ability to “get into the moment.” I suggest developing some kind of fetish. Search the internet. It’s a treasure trove of sexual fetishes! Try to pick something that isn’t completely sexual in nature and then fixate on it. Make it something that you think about all the time, especially during moments of self-pleasure. Given enough time you will tie your fetish to the act of climaxing. Then you can spend your sexy time with your partner thinking about anything else without fear of losing control. Once enough time has elapsed you can start thinking about your fetish — whether that be sweaty naked people playing tennis, clowns playing baseball, or lions tearing into a gazelle — and then explode with passion at the appropriate moment.
I hope this helped. Happy humping!
